DR. CELESTE CATANIA-OPRIS, PH.D., LMFT
A new year means new resolutions. These could be minor to major changes in your life. Whether it be a new hairstyle or switching to a new career path, people tend to create new goals once the new year starts. Here are some common topics to help guide you as you consider your own resolutions this year.
Many people say they want to start eating healthy or lose a few pounds every year. However, do what makes you feel good. Be the size you want to be and eat the dessert if you want. Just make sure you feel comfortable and content with yourself. Additionally, try to get more sleep and exercise when you can, as both help to reduce stress. The point is to be healthy and happy. If you are not, then you may want to reconsider certain decisions. If you are unsure how to do this, then perhaps you could talk to a family member, friend, or even a professional who can help you with your new journey.
Tell your family members you love them when you can, spend more quality time with those you care about, and maybe even plan a family vacation. Perhaps you could mend a broken relationship you have with a specific relative. Grabbing a cup of coffee together may help break the ice, but if that appears too intimidating then use a buffer, such as another relative or a family therapist to help mediate. If more boundaries are what you looking for, then create them. Sometimes people spend too much time with family, causing them to feel suffocated. This is the new year, which means things can be done under your terms. Again, the point is to be happy so live in a way that works for you.
We all have plans for the future. We may not know exactly what those plans are or how to get there yet, but the idea is to create goals for the life we always envisioned for ourselves. What have you always wanted to do? Consider your past goals; did you hit any of them? If not, then why? What do you think has stopped you from attaining your goals? This year, start creating baby steps to get to where you want to be financially, emotionally, and physically. Your life may not be exactly how you always pictured it would be at your age and that is okay too.
The key is to keep on thinking. Think about the person you want to be, the life you always wanted, and the places you want to go. You may not get there entirely this year, but at least you are moving in a positive direction. Forward is forward. Every time you catch yourself going somewhat backwards, just remember to add it to the list next year! Have a Happy New Year everyone!
Celeste Catania-Opris, Ph.D., LMFT, offers therapeutic services to individuals, couples, and families. Visit www.TherapyForModernHousewives.com.